Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda: I Could Have Done My Homework For The New School Year

As summer begins to wind down, stores fill with school supplies and the media report on local school issues. Children reluctantly begin to think school-related thoughts. By preparing for an upcoming school year with my family, I could have helped insure a smooth transition from the last carefree days of summer to the first hectic days of school.

We would start by having a special “back to school” meal. We could have a picnic using new school lunch boxes, prepare a typical lunchroom meal using trays and a lunchroom line, or simply have a favorite family meal. We would talk about the importance of healthy breakfasts and school snacks. We would have a special dessert to honor the approaching school year. By celebrating, we create a positive atmosphere to ease the change from leisure to lessons.

During the meal, we would talk about the upcoming semester. If a child would be attending a new school, we would talk about their apprehensions and expectations and plan a site visit. If they were returning to the same school, we would talk about changes they might experience. By talking about their feelings, children won’t be as intimidated and feel more comfortable in their school surroundings.

After the meal, we would convene a family meeting. We would begin by planning a school shopping trip. We would talk about required supplies for school and study supplies needed for home. We would review the dress code or uniform for their particular grades. We would discuss our own home dress code to avoid future disagreements. Once we had finalized our shopping list, we would schedule a family shopping trip.

We would make schedules for the fall. We would talk about homework times and locations. We would talk about play after school and expected times to be home. We would set dinner times, bath times, and bedtimes. By deciding these schedules before school actually starts, we are able to ease children into a routine before time becomes too hectic and chaotic.

We would discuss fall sports and activities. Between school and other interests, children can become overworked. By voicing their preferences for an activity and discussing the requirements involved, children can make their own choices and be more committed to that activity.

We would plan breaks in the fall for family trips to get away from the stress and work of school. By planning trips in advance, the whole family has something to look forward to when the drudgery of school and work get burdensome.

We would set individual and family goals. We could set academic goals by recognizing a child’s natural abilities and his or her academic and recreation load. We would realistically talk about their challenging subjects and seek ways to help them succeed. We would set goals to encourage their continued enthusiasm for learning by committing to discussing assignments and helping with homework. By becoming a partner in our children’s academics, they realize our concern for their education.

The start of any school year is full of mixed emotions. By starting it off early with a fun family night and planning, we ease the transition from summer fun to fall responsibilities. With a collaborative organized start, we encourage an upbeat attitude for school for everyone.

About the Author:

Luanne Davidson is the proud mother of three adult children and wonders what might have been if she had done a thing or two differently. She writes her “Coulda, Woudla, Shoulda” column each Thursday.